As the stress of life and living in the world continues to build, you may have wondered if it’s worth it to continue. Trauma, tragedy and grief can become so overwhelming that your brain brain does not know how to make sense of it. Sometimes even day-to-day living can just seem like too much.
It may seem like suicide is the only way to end the pain. If you have lost a loved one to suicide, the pain you have felt as a result shows that suicide does not bring relief from pain – in fact it adds to the pain and suffering in the world. Suicide is painful no matter what.
Would the world be better without me?
For anyone considering whether the world would be better off without them, the answer is simply no, it would not be.
There is a path to take out of the darkness. Often, it is masked by the confusion brought on by stress, depression, and other mental distress. This path acknowledges that a life characterized by pain and suffering may not seem to be worth living. BUT, instead of ending your life, you choose to live, while reducing or eliminating the sources of pain and suffering. This may seem obvious, but it is not obvious to someone who is considering suicide. And if it is not obvious to you right now — that is ok, that’s why we’re here.
Reach out for help. People DO care.
If you are one of the many considering suicide right at this very moment, please just take a second to consider reaching out for help. You may not be seeing the full picture as a result of your state of mind. Your mind is only showing you part of the picture right now – the painful one.
Not everything is your fault, and there is a path forward that brings some relief. But it is not only relief that you deserve. You also deserve joy, happiness, excitement, and love — and they can be found on this path as well. The potential to experience positive emotions is still in you and can be activated, as soon as you make the choice to continue living.
Suicide is never painless. Not only in terms of the inevitable physical pain involved in the act, regardless of methods, but also as a result of the profound grief experienced by those who loved you and have to keep living without you for years to come. Life may not feel worth living right now, and if not, then I know you are in pain. I know that pain is real.
It’s hard to see through the fog, but it gets better.
You may not be seeing the full range of possibilities through the fog. In fact, you may be reading this right now and finding a way to disagree with everything written. Nevertheless, I am writing this to encourage you to reach out for help and remind you that your life matters, even if you cannot see that right now. Not only do you have the potential to experience joy again, but you can give it to others along the way.
So, listen up! You can be proud of who you are and the resilience you have shown. You’re brave, powerful, and tough as nails. You don’t deserve the pain you are in now. It is not too late to commit to living — it is never too late.
It may take some work as you search for the best way to feel better, but it is well worth it, and you don’t have go through it alone. The first step to take is to reach out for help in finding relief, to a trusted loved one, or to us at CFS. The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline is also available 24/7 and provides free, confidential support to ALL people.
Today, your life matters to those around you. If you are willing to keep living and start healing, then one day soon it will matter to you again as well.